Say It Now

confidence leadership personal growth Feb 08, 2023

#LeadandLift | Episode 63 | Sherry Richert Belul

Some practices we have in life are unconscious. Stress, sleeplessness, and anxiety is something that many of us experience on a daily basis. In this episode of the Lead and Lift podcast, Sherry taught us how to fight the darkness in our lives by holding on to moments of light, practicing joy, and celebrating others.

Sherry encouraged us to Simply Celebrate since the most simple, tiny things can give us just a little bit of lift. Then that leads us to the next joyful moment and the next.

The Things We Take For Granted

Be careful not to take any blessing for granted. We've got to bring celebration and gratitude in the front and center of our awareness so that we could live a more joyful life.

Let's celebrate the fact that we're alive. Our life and our health is a miracle. Many people wake up and have to deal with chronic illness and many people today didn't even wake up at all.

You don't have to accomplish something to celebrate. Seeing something that is beautiful is enough of a reason to celebrate. Keep an eye out for beautiful moments and celebrate that when you see them.

We have to redefine what the word celebrate means and bring it into the tiniest moments of our lives.

Pause and plant yourself in the moment. Observe and allow yourself to celebrate authentically. As Sherry says,

"To be able to look at something and to feel a connection in our heart. That is celebration." - Sherry Richert Belul

Family And Relationships

if you pause and put a frame around that moment of having these two teenage boys who obviously love you so much that in the morning, they come and give you a hug and a kiss. That when we pause, that's the real celebration

Pause and bring to your attention the people that love you. Relationships aren't just there. We need to invest our time, energy, love, thoughtfulness, and gratitude into relationships because they will not always be there.

Relationships frequently get put on the back burner and it isn't until it's too late that we realize just how much they really mean to us.

We all have heard countless stories of people that we've worked with, who have gotten to the place where they left their relationships on that backburner, and they're so bereft because of the loss.

Sherry talks to people every day, who have taken their relationships for granted and she says that they would give anything to have those back, especially children, spouses and, best friends.

Pinpricks Of Light

Joyful moments are like little jewels on a necklace. We have to hold on to those precious things. For if we don't consciously remember them, our minds will focus on what's wrong, what's missing, what didn't happen, or who said something that hurt us. Sherry encouraged us to keep a sparkle journal and write down all these moments no matter how simple.

“Once you have one tiny light, in the complete darkness, everything's different. that was how I changed my life, literally looking for and then creating pinpricks of light.” - Sherry Richert Belul

These sparkles of light are only as rare as we want them to be. We can have, find, or create a moment that sparkles. That is something that is always available to us, something that we are all capable of doing.

Giving Love To Yourself

In order for us to sustainably be able to give love to others, we must first be the recipients of all of that attention and love, and appreciation. We must first feel it in us so that we can give it to others. Loving ourselves helps us love other people.

Relationships in our lives also bring us joy, happiness, and celebration, but being able to love others starts with us, taking care of us and spending that time with ourselves and for ourselves. We have to figure out that thing that gives us life so that we can go to it whenever we need a recharge.

Sherry’s Favorite Gifts to Give

People want to feel that they are being seen and heard and that they are loved for who they are. It’s hard to express that to a person when you don’t really know them and it’s hard to know them if you don’t listen. Are you observant of people’s desires, dreams, and favorite things?

Give gifts that are personal to others. One simple way you can appreciate somebody is to give them a love list. A love list is a list of specific reasons why we love someone. It doesn’t have to be a long list. Try to think of three things and be as creative as you can be while also keeping it simple.

Another great idea is to give a gift certificate that’s related to something that the person is really passionate about. Spend time with them and encourage them. Maybe they wanted to try photography for a long time, for example, but they couldn’t begin because they feel shy. Take a photo walk with them, go over the pictures after the “shoot” in a cafe, and maybe even print some of them.

Last but not the least, create voice notes for people. Let someone know that they are loved and that you are thinking of them. You can even try out stuff like playing their favorite song in the background as you leave them a message.

Words are free but very meaningful. Sherry said that there's something very, very personal about letting someone know you're thinking of them. Sharing simple words of encouragement or affirmation may just be what somebody needs with what they are going through. Remember that your job isn’t a life or death situation, but the things that happen outside of work are. You don’t have to sacrifice your work to make someone feel loved, just pause, be present, and listen.

Another thing is that when we listen, it feeds that information into our intuition and sometimes we’ll get these on-the-spot ideas of what to do to make somebody feel loved. When we follow those calls of intuition, magical moments can happen.

The True Gift

The gift of time is a true gift. When we’re on our deathbed, it isn’t the expensive purses or clothes that we’ll be thinking about, it will be our loved ones and the moments that we shared with them and the experiences that we had.

We’ll be remembering those magical moments, the times we laughed together or cried together. Those moments are the best gifts.

Here’s Sherry’s advice:

“Say it now. Don't wait. Celebrate now.”

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Chabidaye Jaglal Ramnath

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Hi! I'm Chabidaye Jaglal Ramnath, your Certified High Performance Coach. You know when high achieving moms in leadership desire more joy, fulfillment and confidence in their personal life and business? I deliver that through high performance coaching. I am so happy that our paths have crossed!